Beliefs and actions
Ever wonder why professional
sportspeople can’t do what they practise every day when under pressure or
sometimes they exceed all expectations, or why when you know what to do but you
just can’t get going. Put it another way why was Henry Ford so right –
If you think you can do a thing or think you
can't do a thing, you're right.
Roughly beliefs lead to
actions which are self fulfilling .
So the cycle looks like this for a start -
The results reinforce the
beliefs and become part of our background. We are back to Henry Ford. It is
possible to think yourself into a set of beliefs which says that you cannot for
example sell websites to engineering companies, no logic , just your beliefs
leading.
So – the answer or answers –
is to break the cycle; easy to say not so easy to do. A little bit like saying;
Cheer up or Calm down. One technique, which is called reframing, is to reframe
the situation and use some realistic and detached evaluation of the situation
to find examples which don’t fit the cycle. This means that you look with
detachment and not emotion at your situation where these less than useful
beliefs are being reinforced by results.
One example from my coaching
is a gentleman who was starting out as a consultant having worked for 25 years
in accounting, first with his father’s firm and then with a major consultancy
accounting firm London. He was convinced despite a very successful career that
he couldn’t sell or communicate. He had himself convinced that of the
stereotypical accountant this was reinforced by his father telling repeatedly
that he couldn’t sell.
Just a quick note here – all good coaching life or
otherwise should be based around a large degree of realism – none of this “the
universe will decide …” rubbish (Universal Ordering) . There is no way I am
ever going to do a triathlon. So I will say once the reality check is engaged,
anything is possible.
Back to the new consultant ,
by looking at his achievements in his recent career , I could say although he
hadn’t sold insurance or websites , he had sold accountancy and new ways of
recording income to a couple of plc’s . This is selling. Once convinced of that
the cycle was broken, his attitude became I can sell.
Remember, this
isn't a practice for the real thing. This IS the real thing. Right here, right
now. If you want to do something, do it now. You may never get a second chance.
Talk to me about how to break these cycles.
Paul Clarke 07876173444

